You see, coming out is not just for gay men and lesbians. It is not just about sexuality. It is about stepping out of hiding and presenting ourselves as who we are called to be. This can be the most ominous and terrifying element in our spiritual process, but the freedom it brings with it is immeasurable.
We hide in jobs we hate, in marriages that don’t satisfy us, and in addictions that threaten to destroy us. The number of closets where we can hide are countless. We pretend to have it all figured out, lest the neighbors discover that we struggle and experience fear, anxiety and rage. In a nutshell, we settle for lies, and what is worse, we are not kidding anyone, least of all ourselves. These closets have become home. The only locks on our closet doors are the ones we believe are there, and by changing our minds, we are freed.
—Darren Main, Spiritual Journeys along the Yellow Brick Road